"When we're rewarding and punishing, it's something we're doing TO them. And I find that it's a lot more productive and a lot more effective to do something WITH them, as partners, as teammates, rather than using parental power to make something happen." I felt like this defined my already existing mentality regarding behavior management. I prefer to build a co-relationship with my own children, and my students, that works together over a long-term. This is far more effective than trying to scold, or punish, them in the heat of the moment. It works very well at home, but in my role as an interventionist at school, I work in short periods of time with many students so I am not able to build that lasting relationship. I struggle with how to manage their behavior during our sessions together because I find those "heat of the moment" behaviors frequently.
