I used the collaborative process recently to work through a conflict with a students classroom behavior (using the Lost at School method) and it did effectively work and also change my perspective on how helpful and impactful this method can be. I also use this method recently with a family member. First we took the time to calmly sit down and listen to each others needs. Just in listening to needs it became clear that the problem could definitely be solved through collaboration and neither party would need to simply compromise. To make sure that both parties had time to share and felt heard we wrote down the main concerns and needs of each party. Next we came up with possible solutions. This took time to ensure that both parities were happy with the solution and that it wasn’t simply one party compromising. We were able to implement the solution immediately with success. I think both parties feel happy with the solution and that their needs were met. I think the largest part in successfully solving this problem was taking to time to hear each parties needs (calmly). Further we plan to follow up in a few weeks to make sure the implementation and solution are still working. Overall this was a timely process but effective. I would love to continue to utilize this with students in the classroom setting and also with colleagues as needed.
