I used this with my child while trying to get assignments completed at home with more effort into them.
C - I communicated with my son clearly and assertively that we need to put more effort into our work now that we are in 7th grade. I talked to him that my goal for him is to try his best on everything even if he doesn't like the assignment.
L – I took the time to listen to him on how he is ok with just turning work in and getting it completed.
U – I tried very hard to understand his perspective and practice empathy when he explained that minimal effort was all he was going to give.
E - We talked about how that was not acceptable and that I would be looking over what he turned in to try to help him put his best effort in. I explained how important it was to me that he always tries his best and puts his best effort in. For me it is not about the grade, but more of what he puts into it.
I feel he understood that I am not looking for everything to be perfect and all A's but more about did he put his best work forward. He agreed to work as hard as he could as long as I trusted him and not look over everything he turned in, unless his grades were not good.
I think this was a start to more collaborative conversations with my 13 year old :)
C - I communicated with my son clearly and assertively that we need to put more effort into our work now that we are in 7th grade. I talked to him that my goal for him is to try his best on everything even if he doesn't like the assignment.
L – I took the time to listen to him on how he is ok with just turning work in and getting it completed.
U – I tried very hard to understand his perspective and practice empathy when he explained that minimal effort was all he was going to give.
E - We talked about how that was not acceptable and that I would be looking over what he turned in to try to help him put his best effort in. I explained how important it was to me that he always tries his best and puts his best effort in. For me it is not about the grade, but more of what he puts into it.
I feel he understood that I am not looking for everything to be perfect and all A's but more about did he put his best work forward. He agreed to work as hard as he could as long as I trusted him and not look over everything he turned in, unless his grades were not good.
I think this was a start to more collaborative conversations with my 13 year old :)