Plan A, imposing my will and desires on someone else, can cause the challenging student to exhibit challenging behavior. Might makes right is how Plan A is perceived by others, at least through the eyes of a not challenging student. Plan B is the Collaborative Problem Solving, CPS,
Plan C is to drop the expectation for now, but it does not mean giving up. I had a hard time with his example of the teeth brushing the "child" said no and his response was okay. That's a tough pill for me to swallow. I was raised with expectations and "rules" and when your parent requested that you did something you did it.
Expectations of the unmet kind are the ones that deserve the focus. The goal of intervention is to make the kid better based on where he/she is developmentally. Not necessarily where he/she should be when looking as same aged peers.
Plan C is to drop the expectation for now, but it does not mean giving up. I had a hard time with his example of the teeth brushing the "child" said no and his response was okay. That's a tough pill for me to swallow. I was raised with expectations and "rules" and when your parent requested that you did something you did it.
Expectations of the unmet kind are the ones that deserve the focus. The goal of intervention is to make the kid better based on where he/she is developmentally. Not necessarily where he/she should be when looking as same aged peers.