Plan A is imposing your will and plan B is collaborative problem solving. I learned that "might makes right" can cause challenging behavior in challenging kids. Making demands is convenient and instinctive for adults to use, but does not work with kids who are not developmentally able to handle it. A situation when I might use plan A would be in an emergency situation and students need to obey orders right away. Plan B is using collaborative problem solving and helping the student navigate problems and regulate their emotions. This prioritizes teaching skills and problem solving. It does not happen quickly and a quote used in the video that I really liked was " doing the right thin never takes as long as doing the wrong thing."
