Is it easier to have converstations when you look different?

I watch "Courageous Converstions About Race with Glenn Singleton". I also watched most of the extended version. As someone that looks different than most of the other people I come into contact with, I feel that race/ethnicity has to be address rather quickly. I feel that there is a natural curiousity. I can either address it or let it be a lingering question. In doing so however, I can often engage in the converstation of race/ethnicity. I hope I approach all people with genuine care and respect. I hope that I can convey that quickly. If this is the case, if I say something that is not politically correct, I hope the person can see that I am not intending harm. Courageous Converstions also means that I must provide grace when I recieve a potentially threatening comment. Whlle it is an oversimplification, if we all approachconverstations with civility our converstations would be much easier. 
The video also reminded me that we all have a story, a narrative. Our job is to learn about other peoples stories. We can wonder how does someone elses story fit with our story. If that persons story is different it is a rich opportunity to enter into a new world.